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If you're a woman who likes men, then you've probably been in a relationship, a situationship, or on a date with a man who disappointed you in some way. Because, well... men! And I'll bet you also never really got the opportunity to tell them precisely what you thought of them, and you're still holding onto a little of that anger. It sucks not to get the closure you need when a relationship ends, and the Instagram account To The Guys I've Dated is helping women to take care of that. They post funny and real letters of disappointment from girls to their "exes." Each week, we bring you a fresh batch of these letters, so dive in and scroll through this latest haul, and then check out last week's in case you missed them.

It takes a lot of confidence to go on a date. There are a million ways it can go wrong, and yet we still manage to sum up the power to do it all the frickin time. I believe we all deserve a round of applause for consistently putting ourselves out there. Most of the time our dates do not lead to something bigger, but we learn from each one. We gain lessons from every person we open ourselves up to. But sometimes that lesson is just: Stop going after a-holes.

Dating has evolved over time, and somehow we've arrived at the age of dating apps. It's so wonderful to be here together... right? If you've been on the apps as long as I have, it's actually the opposite of wonderful. Just hearing the words Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge makes me physically ill. Okay, so maybe I'm being a bit of a drama queen, but try one day on the apps and you'll see what I mean. The singles of Twitter know exactly what I'm talking about. Check out this week's funniest tweets about people's ridiculous experiences on dating apps below. 

If it's not your first time on the rodeo, then you know relationships are complicated. Jealousy is often an issue that comes up, but people seriously need to learn how to trust their significant others (unless there have been acts of cheating in the past). On Reddit's infamous "Am I The A**hole?" subreddit, a Redditor told a quick tale about how her friend's boyfriend gave her a ride because her brother with a health condition needed his meds STAT. When she got back, however, the guy's girlfriend was upset that the two were alone in a car together because they dated once upon a time. The GF is obvs super insecure, and should probably discuss this with her BF instead of taking it out on her friend, in my humble opinion. Scroll down for what Redditors had to say about this drama. 

Being on a dating app can be very exhausting. Some people are so cringy and it seems that nobody has told them. Like, I hate to break it to you Chad, putting women down is so 20th century. Now we actually go for people who respect us, or at least we try. It can be hard when the dating pool appears so limited! At least we know the kinds of creeps to avoid... for the most part.

People are sharing the dating app bios that make them want to delete the entire app, and boy are some of these cringe.

Let's be honest with ourselves, there's always a reason we're single. It may not be that simple to figure out, but somethings there. It could be our lack of hygiene, our hoarding problem, or our inability to trust. They're all viable options. If you're not sure what your reason is, then lucky for you @JimmyFallon asked people to share their reasons on Twitter. Maybe your 'Why' will become clear to you by the end.

As much as we sh*t-talk men and all the ways they did us wrong, apparently, there are women out there who have also acted like total f*ckboys towards the opposite sex, and I am super ashamed of these kinds of women. I mean, how can we expect guys to step up their game if we're setting the bar just as low? A Reddit user asked his fellow Redditors about times where they realized that 'nice' girls weren't actually that nice, and the responses are such a bummer. Come on ladies - get it together and do better! Scroll down for these cringe stories. 

Another week calls for more dating app drama. I mean, come on people - we're already well-aware that finding a relationship is never easy, especially on the apps. On a thread featured on the Best of Bumble Reddit, a man shared his exchange with a woman on Bumble, who claimed he was shallow for asking her to provide her Instagram in order to verify that she's real. Many Redditors came to his defense, arguing that it's better to know if you're attracted to the person before going on the date in order to ensure that no one's time gets wasted. What do you guys think? Scroll down for all the Reddit responses. 

When we are growing up, we have to follow our parent's rules. It's just the way it is. They feed and clothe us, so we basically have to do whatever they say. 

"Be home by 11."

"Oookay." 

"Finish your homework."

"Oookay"

"No closing doors when a boy is over."

"Ookay."

They make these rules (usually) to keep us safe, productive, and out of trouble. But sometimes our parents can forget that at some point we pay our own bills, buy our own clothes, and have to make our own decisions. At some point, they have to realize that we're not kids anymore, and we've already moved on from the possibility of teen pregnancy.

A lot of us try to be as attractive as possible. It's a part of the 'look good, feel good' phenomenon. We don't necessarily do it to attract the opposite sex, but it does matter to us that people, in general, get a good first impression of us.  Whether it be at a job interview, a first date, a party, a chill meeting, whenever we meet somebody new, we want them to think, "Hey, this btch takes care of herself, I like that." But what are the things need to do to ensure that we give off that impression?

Well, people are sharing the little things that make someone more attractive (in their opinion), and maybe you'll find some inspo. Or maybe you'll just think, "yeah this sht doesn't really matter to me." And that's cool too.

Ahhhh the classic 'mansplainer'. 'Mainsplaining' is the explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing. Often times it is about subjects that they have no business speaking about in the first place, but of course, since they have a penis, this apparently makes them an expert in just about every subject. We teamed up with dating blog, The Single Society, to bring you a list of the WORST mansplaining experienced women have had in the dating world.

After they've had enough fun living their best single lives, many single ladies begin looking for the real thing - that sweet, serious relationship. So what that search look like in 2021? With the modern invention of dating apps, you'd think that finding that Instagram-worthy relationship would be easy peasy. But because dating is an absolute dumpster fire no matter what time period you're dating in, you'd be oh, so wrong. While there are a select few that have somehow managed to find love on dating apps against all odds, the rest of us mere peasants on Twitter are trying our best and failing miserably. Scroll down for this week's most painfully relatable tweets about dating apps.  

It is totally fine to ask someone outwardly, "Hey, would you like to have sex?" But after sleeping with someone consistently for months, or maybe even years, you develop other ways of asking someone if they feel like doing the dirty. Just like how some people have a safe word, other people have an 'initiation word.' These are great for when you have kids around, or you're out with friends, or if you just wanna spice things up a little.

If you're looking for ideas, you're in luck. On Reddit, people are sharing how they and their significant other ask for sex without actually saying, "Do you want to have sex?'

Hell has no fury like a woman scorned. But sometimes the reason they are 'scorned' is completely f*cking ridiculous. We give men PLENTY of sh*t for being stupid, crazy, or downright ridiculous, so it is only fair we call out some crazy women for their antics as well. We asked the people of the Internet to share the MOST ridiculous reason their ex-girlfriend got mad at them compliments of dating blog The Single Society, and the results certainly did not disappoint. Here is a comprehensive list of the most outlandish reasons men were 'in the dog house.'

Beginning a relationship can be a big step. You're agreeing to let your walls down a little, and let this person in a little. Right before we make the decision to start something new with someone is when all of the potential red flags start flooding in. In fear of being hurt, or having to hurt someone else, we can back out of relationships for seemingly petty reasons. But hey, it's better to back out before it all gets too deep because it's kind of awkward to break up with someone for chewing loudly after being together for 3 years.

We take in a lot of information on first dates. They're basically like romantic interviews. You try to decide if this person is worth letting into your homes into your heart and under your clothes.

It's nice to see what natural chemistry builds up on that first date, but it's also important that you understand who you're sitting next to.

People are sharing the 'no-nonsense' questions they ask on first dates to really get a full picture of the person they're dating. Being direct like this can sure save time, but it can also cancel people out before the relationship gets a proper chance.