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As much as we sh*t-talk men and all the ways they did us wrong, apparently, there are women out there who have also acted like total f*ckboys towards the opposite sex, and I am super ashamed of these kinds of women. I mean, how can we expect guys to step up their game if we're setting the bar just as low? A Reddit user asked his fellow Redditors about times where they realized that 'nice' girls weren't actually that nice, and the responses are such a bummer. Come on ladies - get it together and do better! Scroll down for these cringe stories. 

Another week calls for more dating app drama. I mean, come on people - we're already well-aware that finding a relationship is never easy, especially on the apps. On a thread featured on the Best of Bumble Reddit, a man shared his exchange with a woman on Bumble, who claimed he was shallow for asking her to provide her Instagram in order to verify that she's real. Many Redditors came to his defense, arguing that it's better to know if you're attracted to the person before going on the date in order to ensure that no one's time gets wasted. What do you guys think? Scroll down for all the Reddit responses. 

When we are growing up, we have to follow our parent's rules. It's just the way it is. They feed and clothe us, so we basically have to do whatever they say. 

"Be home by 11."

"Oookay." 

"Finish your homework."

"Oookay"

"No closing doors when a boy is over."

"Ookay."

They make these rules (usually) to keep us safe, productive, and out of trouble. But sometimes our parents can forget that at some point we pay our own bills, buy our own clothes, and have to make our own decisions. At some point, they have to realize that we're not kids anymore, and we've already moved on from the possibility of teen pregnancy.

A lot of us try to be as attractive as possible. It's a part of the 'look good, feel good' phenomenon. We don't necessarily do it to attract the opposite sex, but it does matter to us that people, in general, get a good first impression of us.  Whether it be at a job interview, a first date, a party, a chill meeting, whenever we meet somebody new, we want them to think, "Hey, this btch takes care of herself, I like that." But what are the things need to do to ensure that we give off that impression?

Well, people are sharing the little things that make someone more attractive (in their opinion), and maybe you'll find some inspo. Or maybe you'll just think, "yeah this sht doesn't really matter to me." And that's cool too.

Ahhhh the classic 'mansplainer'. 'Mainsplaining' is the explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing. Often times it is about subjects that they have no business speaking about in the first place, but of course, since they have a penis, this apparently makes them an expert in just about every subject. We teamed up with dating blog, The Single Society, to bring you a list of the WORST mansplaining experienced women have had in the dating world.

After they've had enough fun living their best single lives, many single ladies begin looking for the real thing - that sweet, serious relationship. So what that search look like in 2021? With the modern invention of dating apps, you'd think that finding that Instagram-worthy relationship would be easy peasy. But because dating is an absolute dumpster fire no matter what time period you're dating in, you'd be oh, so wrong. While there are a select few that have somehow managed to find love on dating apps against all odds, the rest of us mere peasants on Twitter are trying our best and failing miserably. Scroll down for this week's most painfully relatable tweets about dating apps.  

It is totally fine to ask someone outwardly, "Hey, would you like to have sex?" But after sleeping with someone consistently for months, or maybe even years, you develop other ways of asking someone if they feel like doing the dirty. Just like how some people have a safe word, other people have an 'initiation word.' These are great for when you have kids around, or you're out with friends, or if you just wanna spice things up a little.

If you're looking for ideas, you're in luck. On Reddit, people are sharing how they and their significant other ask for sex without actually saying, "Do you want to have sex?'

Hell has no fury like a woman scorned. But sometimes the reason they are 'scorned' is completely f*cking ridiculous. We give men PLENTY of sh*t for being stupid, crazy, or downright ridiculous, so it is only fair we call out some crazy women for their antics as well. We asked the people of the Internet to share the MOST ridiculous reason their ex-girlfriend got mad at them compliments of dating blog The Single Society, and the results certainly did not disappoint. Here is a comprehensive list of the most outlandish reasons men were 'in the dog house.'

Beginning a relationship can be a big step. You're agreeing to let your walls down a little, and let this person in a little. Right before we make the decision to start something new with someone is when all of the potential red flags start flooding in. In fear of being hurt, or having to hurt someone else, we can back out of relationships for seemingly petty reasons. But hey, it's better to back out before it all gets too deep because it's kind of awkward to break up with someone for chewing loudly after being together for 3 years.

We take in a lot of information on first dates. They're basically like romantic interviews. You try to decide if this person is worth letting into your homes into your heart and under your clothes.

It's nice to see what natural chemistry builds up on that first date, but it's also important that you understand who you're sitting next to.

People are sharing the 'no-nonsense' questions they ask on first dates to really get a full picture of the person they're dating. Being direct like this can sure save time, but it can also cancel people out before the relationship gets a proper chance.

Dating apps were created to make dating easier. Is it just me, or have they actually made dating more complicated than it has to be? While swiping through seemingly endless possibilities seems awesome at first, it gets old real quick. One must swipe through many freaks and weirdos before finding the one - or deleting the apps entirely before getting back on in moments of desperation. Are relationships even worth all this effort? because I really don't know anymore. We've all been there, and Twitter knows the struggle all too well. Scroll down for this week's funniest dating app tweets. 

Getting dumped is never easy. But getting dumped over text requires some serious self-reflection. I'm definitely not telling you to ask yourself, "What did I do wrong?" Rather, "How the hell did I let this dweeb into my life in the first place." Ladies, we need standards. Yes, it is always difficult to tell if someone is going to f*ck you over, and it's better to love and get hurt than to never love at all... However, if you're like me, we are also amazing at ignoring red flags really early on.

So next time someone disresp-exts you, here is all you need to pick yourself back up again.

Everyone gets ghosted sometimes. We are also all guilty of ghosting other people as well, sometimes even on accident. People used to have to go to great lengths to keep up a relationship with someone. If you set a time to meet up with a friend in the '80s, that was it, you couldn't text them and tell them that you're not feeling it 30 minutes before, you had to either show up or stand them up.  

Nowadays it is so damn easy to contact someone, but still, the thought of messaging someone back can sometimes feel like such an exertion of effort.  So, we ghost, and we get ghosted, and we make clowns out of people, and slowly we all become more and more antisocial. What a time to be alive.

We are often very picky when it comes to choosing our potential partners. We go on multiple dates, wait to open up, and often ask other people for advice on whether the relationship is healthy. For whatever reason, we do not go to this extent for friendships as well. A lot of the time friendships come out of straight convenience, and it might be because I'm a bit of an over-sharer but I definitely do not wait to make sure I can fully trust them before I get into some deep topics with friends.

Just like in romantic relationships, there are definitely red flags in friendships that you don't always see. Luckily, people are pointing them out on Reddit.

Do not be fooled by movies and TV, flirting is not always easy. There are so many factors that need to be in line in order for a flirting attempt to be successful. Firstly, they have to know you're flirting. Secondly, they have to want you to flirt with them. Thirdly, you have to sum up some serious finesse.

Maybe it sounds easy when written out in three steps, but it's definitely not something that comes naturally to everyone. That's why it is so impressive when someone actually accomplishes a clever flirting attempt. It's definitely a roller-coaster, you have to shoot your shot, but also read the room. Either way, be careful, It's a crazy world out there.

Being a single pringle on the lookout for love is a struggle, and I'm not sure if dating apps make the process better or worse. The people of Twitter come for dating apps on a weekly basis, and their experience on the apps ranges from hilarious to actually ridiculous. I'm starting to think that finding love on the apps isn't as easy as the swipe of a button unless I'm missing something here. Anyhoo, scroll down for the best of this week's dating app tweets.