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Some issues are so multi-faceted you don't even know where to start. You can try to address the smaller things but sometimes there simply are no smaller things and you have to just take the problem as it is. Also, there will be cases where everybody is the bad guy and nobody really learns their lesson. Unfortunately, life isn't a movie, so you can't really wait around for people to get their just desserts. All you can do is live your life and try to avoid as much drama as you can.

Introducing someone to the family is a big deal. Sometimes they don't approve of your friends, they just don't vibe with them and it's incredibly awkward when you want to have people over. But other times it can be the opposite issue. Our families usually are most loyal to us, but they can certainly get attached to our friends and significant others as well, and when those people betray you and you want to drop them from your life... Let's just say it gets messy.

A woman posted a question on the Reddit group, Am I The A-hole, asking if she's in the wrong for hacking into her mom's Instagram account after suspecting that her mom gossiped about the "high-profile family" her daughter nannies for, to her friend. The woman explains that this was a direct violation of the NDA that her family had to sign when she started the job, which was in place to protect the family she works for. All for the sake of bragging to her friend. Upon finding out that she hacked into the account, her mom lost it, telling her daughter that she invaded her privacy. The internet jumped to the nanny's defense, whose job, reputation, and livelihood were now at risk. They claimed that her mom was manipulating the situation and gaslighting her daughter when she held her accountable for her actions.

Read the story below and see if you agree with Redditors' comments, who sympathized with her. Then, check out the last comment, where the OP explains what she will do to rectify the situation.

Everybody has their own hygienic routine, and it's not really fair to judge someone's just because it doesn't match your own. Obviously there are minimal standards, but then again, not everyone has the same access to hygienic facilities so it's probably best to not assume anything. This works vice versa as well, people who take hour-long showers should really consider their water usage. What are they doing in there for a whole hour anyway? Like we said, it's not good to judge, but It's hard not to get suspicious when someone could easily spend a good portion of their day in the restroom.

Even though you're blood-related, it's not always guaranteed that you'll be tight with your family. Sure you probably have some stuff in common, but it doesn't mean you'll all be best friends or even acquaintances for that matter. Let's be real, we all have some relatives we don't vibe with, and that just don't understand us in the slightest. Everyone has that crazy aunt, or uncle, or in-law, it's basically guaranteed. All you can do is remind yourself that they're the messed up one, and not you — unless it actually is you.

It's really common these days for people to have a few dietary restrictions. There's nothing inherently wrong with excluding a couple of things for health, or environmental reasons, but obviously, some restrictions are more serious than others. Whatever the case may be, if you know you have some pretty strict food rules, you can't really go around assuming people will prepare the appropriate food for you. Unless you wear a sign everywhere you go, you need to vocalize to people what you need, we're not psychics after all.

A woman took to the popular Reddit thread, Am I The A**hole, to ask if she was right to give her husband an ultimatum when it came to his new female coworker who was infatuated with him. She was sick of the way the coworker would contact her husband, "Multiple times a day at all hours of the day and night she will call and text him for help" and felt that she was crossing all kinds of boundaries. She ended the post saying, "He can either to be married to me, or married to her, but I wasn't going to be the third wheel in my own marriage. He says he does not have feelings for her and that I am overreacting to him just wanting to help a friend. I feel otherwise. AITA?" Of course, Redditers jumped to her defense, reassuring her that she was totally within her right to call her husband out on his shady behavior. Read through her dilemma below, along with the advice she received. And always, always trust your gut when it comes to this type of behavior in relationships. Boundaries exist for a reason, and a partner who can't honor those boundaries does not respect you or your relationship.

Grandparents have the potential to have some very special relationships with their grandchildren. But something about the generational differences can either bring them really close or be a barrier that holds them back from being able to relate to each other. We so often hear the term, "oh, they're from a different time, don't take what they say to heart" but that doesn't really make any sense. Sure they were alive during a time where 'things were different' but they were also alive during the times where those 'things' changed, so why couldn't they also shift their outlook?

Different people have vastly different opinions on their birthdays. Some people dread them every year because they're so perplexed on how to celebrate, or don't feel like they've accomplished enough in the past year, or they just don't like adding a larger number to their identity. But some people are obsessed with their birthdays, and actually look forward to their big day. It doesn't really matter how you feel about your birthday, whether you have strong or mild feelings about it, you're allowed to feel however you want and no one should hold you back from celebrating it in whichever way feels right to you.

In real life, we like to have standards for ourselves. We wouldn't appreciate it if a random guy showed up at our house unannounced, or threw rocks at our window in the middle of the night, you see, that's called trespassing. But in movies, books, plays, we eat all that sh*t up like a steaming bowl of brown sugar oatmeal. A troubled boy who has slight anger issues and treats most women terribly? Sounds like a classic love interest from an erotic novel, and obviously we're rooting for him.

This week, we have internet worlds colliding on Reddit's "Am I the A$$hole?" thread, featuring a Karen in the wild. Karen's hubby told us all about his wife's latest behavior at a drive-thru. No surprise that Karens love to frequent and make a scene at drive-thrus. After yelling at a poor drive-thru employee and calling the manager to complain about her, OP hubby and his kids went back to explain to the manager that the employee did nothing wrong and tipped the employee. When Karen found out what they did, she was fuming. She grounded her husband, as well as their adult children (who are 18 and 20). We didn't know it was possible to ground three adults, yet here we are. Hubby wants to know if they were in the wrong for going behind her back. Scroll down for more context and let us know what you think in the comments. 

One of the most important things to cherish in a relationship is trust. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, romantic or not, without it... There's only of far two people can go together. That's why it hurts so badly when somebody you love betrays your trust, suddenly everything the relationship was built on can crumble within minutes. Sure you can apologize, but it's much harder to regain someone's trust after you hurt them.

Life can be really complicated sometimes, and terrible things can really hit you from left field. However, we cannot unload all of our issues onto our friends and expect them to solve each and every one. Our friends are there to support us, but they are also facing their own demons, and the love and care need to go both ways. It can be extremely difficult to find this kind of balance in friendships sometimes.

Every couple with children lands on some kind of system to share the labor. Sometimes people switch or days, or months, or they agree to have one person take on the housework while the other focuses on supporting the family financially. There is no perfect recipe for a happy family or marriage, but the important thing is that everyone feels valued and not like they're being taken for granted. There's not a single thing wrong with taking on the role of a stay-at-home mom, but it is wrong to be pushed into that position and then resented by your partner for 'having it easier,' as if managing a household is not a 24/7 occupation.

Like we said, find the balance that works for you, but make sure all parties understand why it's 'balanced.'

Reddit's "Am I The A$$hole?" subreddit is known for some pretty crazy family drama, but this particular thread is a tough one to swallow. After marrying her high school sweetheart, these newlyweds experienced a miscarriage that completely shattered their relationship. Even though they stayed together, she found out that he had cozied up to her sister behind closed doors. Behind she knew it, they were getting married! The worst part? Her sister told her maybe her baby died for a reason - so that she could get her happy ending. Talk about narcissistic! We are horrified. Scroll down for all the messed-up details behind what drives this messed-up family. 

Hosting is definitely a skill that some people have and some people don't. If you didn't grow up in a big hosting household you can feel uncomfortable with the idea of inviting people over, but it's definitely something you can work on.

That all being said… You are under no obligation to host anyone ever, especially overnight and especially people you don't really know. We are all adults here, and it's ok to admit that it's uncomfortable to have strangers sleeping in the room next to you. There's a reason our homes aren't hostels.