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Guy Ruins Wife's Expensive Gender Reveal On Social Media, Pissing Her Off Big Time

In my humble opinion, one of the worst trends that social media has perpetuated in the last few years is the gender reveal party. Never has there been a worse excuse to celebrate something that doesn't need celebrating. Parents, trust me, aside from you and possibly your parents, no one else is as invested in the sex of your baby. Let me say that again for the people at the back: NO ONE CARES! People have taken the trend way too far, spending insane amounts of money revealing the gender of their baby, and the madness needs to stop. One father, who also clearly feels the same, wrote to Reddit's Am I The Asshole after sabotaging his wife's $4K elaborate gender reveal plan for their unborn (spoiler alert) son. He posted the gender on Facebook instead, which left his wife understandably gutted. People commented with mixed reviews, some calling him an asshole for sabotaging his wife's announcement in the way he did, but others congratulated him for putting a stop to spending so much money on the gender reveal. What do you think? Asshole or not?



guy ruins his wife's expensive gender reveal on Facebook and she's fuming | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/Beneficial-Poetry-74 2 days ago 25 10 S 12 11 AITA for ruining my childs gender reveal? Not the A-hole Myself (27M) and my wife (27F) are having a boy, we already have a girl who is now 2. My wife is really into films, oscar type films and she is like an analyser when watching them so she wanted to make a gender reveal short film, 10 minutes long to say we're having a
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Guy Gets Slammed For Being Jealous Of GF's 'Easier', Better Paid Job

The extended lockdown over the past year has meant many couples now work together from home. Of course, living and working with your significant other isn't ideal because you're basically on top of each other 24-7, exposing you to sides of them that you might not have seen before. But since it's pretty unavoidable nowadays, couples have had to adapt. Unfortunately, it has brought out the ugly side of people, which one guy who posted on Reddit's Am I The Asshole proved when he went on a jealous rant after observing his GF's work schedule and being bitter that she was making double his salary for half the work. She understandably got pissed off, explaining that it wasn't his place to say what her time was worth because she was hired for her knowledge. If her boss and CEO saw the work she produced and based her salary off that, it wasn't his place to undervalue her because he was jealous. He also casually threw in the fact that she does the housework and he doesn't. Redditors had a lot to say to him, but the main consensus was that he was the asshole who had jealousy issues. Read his ridiculous rant, and let us know what you think.




guy jealous of girlfriend's better paying job | thumbnail Text - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/throwaway862610 3 hours ago AITA for being frustrated that my girlfriend doesn't work hard at her job and gets paid nearly twice as much as I do? My girlfriend and I both work in tech, she's a safety validator for software, working at a consulting firm, and I'm doing network infrastructure support. When we both worked in different offices I didn't know much about her day to day life at work.
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Boss Dragged For Claiming Employee's Morning Sickness 'Counteracts Feminist Movement'

If you ever need a stark reminder that sexism is still very much alive and well, here's a story for ya. A male employer recently posted a rant on Reddit's Am I The AHole, expressing his displeasure over his (by the sounds of it, very much overworked) female employee's productivity being affected by her morning sickness. Yeah, no sh*t Sherlock. Try going through one day of pregnancy, and then mansplain about what a breeze it is. He said that since she was only in her "first trimester and barely even pregnant yet," he didn't think it was "fair to other women that she was using a normal bodily function as an excuse for low productivity." Ummm OK. Death is also a 'normal bodily function,' so I'm not sure that argument holds up. The cherry on the top of his ignorant, misogynistic rant was him telling her, "This is what women fought to counteract during the feminist movement." OK, so two things are clear to me: not only does this idiot have zero comprehension of how difficult pregnancy can be, but he's completely missed the point that his dismissal of her medical issues because it's pregnancy-related, is the sexist part. As you can imagine, Redditors were quick to jump down his throat, calling him out on being the a—hole that he is. God help his wife when she is pregnant.

boss is dragged for complaining female employee's morning sickness undoes years of feminist activism | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/Unfair-Raspberry-108 5 days ago AITA for telling an employee that pregnancy is not an excuse for low productivity? Asshole I work in an office (due to the nature of our work and our employer, we are not working remotely right now) where I supervise a team of three people. The end of the year is our crunch time, and it means that my entire team is putting in more hou
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Man Trolled For Asking Girlfriend To Stop Smiling So Widely In Photos

Being attracted to your partner is an essential aspect of a healthy relationship. Although attraction isn't based solely on physical appearance—it's also about their character—being OK with the way your partner looks is crucial. If you don't like the way someone looks, don't be with them. And don't complain about it and pretend that you're doing so for their good. Because that's how you give people insecurities or at least perpetuate ones they already have.

One guy took to Reddit's Am I The A— Hole, explaining that his girlfriend has a "bad case of TMJ, which makes it so that when she gives a big smile, one side of her mouth curls up into a huge grin while the other side basically stays still. Every selfie we've taken together has her looking like this. While I absolutely accept that this is just a condition she has, I wish she would do what she can to make it less noticeable." Redditers jumped to defend the poor woman, calling this guy out for the a**hole that he is. Here is his post, with some of the comments. What do you think?

man asked his girlfriend to smile less widely in photos and gets roasted | thumbnail Text - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/SmileThrowaway77 22 hours ago A2 2 2 4 e 3 4 2 9 4 AITA for asking my girlfriend to stop smiling so widely for photos? Asshole I (43m) met a woman (34f) online several months ago. We began talking and we really it off. She's a really pretty woman, but she does have a slight flaw to her physical appearance; she has a bad case of TMJ which makes it so that when she gives a big
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Couple Announce Pregnancy At Sick Niece's Birthday Party, Stealing Thunder

Stealing someone's thunder at a big event is up there with the top ways to ruin someone's big moment. For example, proposing at someone else's wedding. Even if you've got permission from the couple, you'll always be that person who stole someone's thunder. Just. Don't. Do. It. One woman took to Reddit's Am I The A-hole, to ask if she's in the wrong for being angry at her brother and sister-in-law, who announced their pregnancy at her sick daughter's birthday party because the whole family was gathered there. The unanimous decision was that the brother and sister-in-law were the**holes, and that it was inappropriate and attention-seeking to ruin the little girl's big day. Read the story and see what people have to say about this insensitive couple.

couple steal thunder at nieces birthday party by making pregnancy announcement | thumbnail Text - AITA For arguing with my brother's wife after she announced her pregnancy at my daughter's birthdays party? Not the A-hole Hi. I'm a 37 year old mom. First off let me start by saying that my 13 year old daughter Maya was suffering from blood cancer and it was incredibly hard on her because of how weak she was. We'd seen some pretty awful days. I was exhausted I had zero strength to handle it. It was
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Husband Trolled For Telling Wife To 'F— Off' After Job Promotion

A healthy marriage is about a partnership. It means celebrating each other's successes — both professional and personal — and realizing that one person's achievement benefits both people in the relationship. But sometimes, the fragile male ego gets in the way, leaving some men unable to celebrate their wives' success, especially if they feel insecure about their accomplishments. Like this guy who posted on Reddit's Am I The A-hole, who couldn't handle the fact that his wife received a promotion at work while he was unemployed. Instead of celebrating her success, he accused her of "bragging" about it (which, of course, she wasn't, she was only hoping her husband would show her the basic and expected levels of pride and support). Of course, everyone accused him of toxic masculinity and called him a massive a**hole. Personally, I can't even believe this guy is real.

husband who was jealous of wife's promotion at work told her to F off, gets trolled | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/oldcaca101 5 days ago AITA for telling my wife to f ck off after she was bragging about her promotion at work ? Asshole Me and my wife have been married for 3 years. For info, i was working as a web designer but me and some of my coworkers got laid off and I have been looking for another job for a month but I haven't been able to find anything. Ive sent CVs but I never got any respo
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Man Tells Fiancé Not To Wear White Wedding Dress, Because No Longer A virgin

Reddit's Am I the A- hole is a place full of real, well... a**holes. But it's especially full of men who hold archaic, misogynistic views of the world and who deserve naming and shaming. Take this guy, for example, who asked his fiance not to wear a white wedding dress because she was no longer a virgin. Oh, and it was essentially only to please his "traditional" family. Unsurprisingly, she is having second thoughts about marrying this gem of a man, and he doesn't understand why. Redditers jumped to her defense, calling out his glaringly obvious red flags, such as the unhealthy boundaries between him and his family and the fact that their age gap of ten years creates some child-bride like dynamics. This poor girl needs to RUN, and fast, from this slut-shaming energy. Honestly, some people...

man tells his fiancé not to wear a white wedding dress because she's not a virgin anymore | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/SweetStickyThrowAway 2 days ago 3 82 AITA for convincing my girlfriend NOT to wear a white dress on our wedding day? Asshole So me (32M) and my soon to be wife (23F) are planing to get married in a few months. I come from a very religious house hold with strong Cristian beliefs and one of the traditions in my family is if the woman getting married isn't still a virgin they sho
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Manipulative Mom Makes Conditional Offer To Buy Daughter's Wedding Dress, Gets Trolled

There is a special place in hell for manipulative, narcissistic parents, but especially for those who try to ruin their children's wedding day. Case in point is this woman, who posted on Reddit's Am I The A-hole, asking if she is wrong to only contribute towards her daughter's wedding dresses if she picked the dresses they wore. Yes, lady, you are a massive a**hole. It sounds like a whole bunch of emotionally manipulative, controlling, self-centered behavior to me, and evidently, her daughters feel the same. The overwhelming majority of people replied to her post, expressing their disgust at her attempts to make her daughters' weddings all about herself and essentially forcing her kids to buy her approval. Below, is her shocking post and some of the comments that she received in response.

mom trolled for refusing to contribute towards daughter's wedding dress unless she chooses it | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/JuneBLawrence 10 days ago AITA for paying for my younger daughter's wedding dress and not my older daughter's dress? Asshole I have 3 grown children (son, daughter, daughter). I don't have enough money to give them all $50K for a wedding. So I told them that I can give them $3K each and help with any DIY projects. When my son got married three years ago, his wife was such
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Ex-Wife Won't Change Her Married Name, Despite New Wife's Unreasonable Demands

A woman posted on the subreddit Am I The A-Hole wanting to know whether her former husband's new wife was unreasonable in requesting that she change her married name. The ex-wife texted the former wife asked her to revert to her maiden name, "Because we are married now, and I'm his wife. I should be the only one with his last name." The OP wrote that she and her ex, "have not been married for over 12 years. The reason I did not change my name is due to all my professional certifications and licenses. Ex and I agreed when we got divorced that it was too much of a hassle to change everything, and I would keep my last name the same to avoid the stress and headache of having to do that."

Of course, Redditers jumped to her defense and calling out the new wife for being unreasonable, as well as her former husband for indulging the nonsense. See what you think of this ridiculous woman.

former wife wants to know if she is obligated to give up her married name when new wife asks her to | thumbnail r/AmItheAsshole Posted by u/namechangethrowaway0 3 months ago 2 AITA not changing my name? Not hole So this just happened and not sure feel. My ex and divorced 12 years ago have two children and share custody have great coparenting relationship and have had zero issues with anything since our divorce. My ex met his now wife five years ago and get along good as well. She is good stepmom
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Bride-To-Be's Future Mother In Law Ruins Wedding Dress, Won't Take Responsibility

Ladies, before tying the knot, it's essential to understand how much of a mommy's boy you're marrying and how healthy the dynamics of the family that you're marrying into are. If your future husband doesn't put you before his mom, sister, or other family members, then you might have a big issue with boundaries on your hands. One woman discovered this the hard way when she found her wedding dress missing from her closet. It turns out that her fiancé had taken the dress over to his mom's house, who was upset that she hadn't been part of the dress-buying process. His mom and sister then proceeded to try on the dress, stretching it out, so it no longer fitted the bride, and then refused to replace it. The understandably furious bride posted on Reddit's Am I The A-Hole, asking whether or not she was right to be upset at the evident lack of respect she was receiving from her fiancé and his family. The responses were unanimously telling her not to ignore the glaring red flags of lack of boundaries and walk away. Here is the story, with some of the best comments in response.



son gives fiancé's wedding dress to his mother to try on, she ruins it, bride devastated | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/aitathrowaway566 1 month ago 12 10 11 5 3 31 AITA For demanding my fiancé and his mom to pay for a new wedding dress? Not the A-hole Me 26F and my fiancé 28M been engaged for 4 months, we're planning on having our wedding on October 18th, My future mother in law kept annoying me and sending me suggestions for choosing the right wedding dress, and said that she knew better and t
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Mom Makes Husband Take Over 'Household Duties' For a Day, Plays Video Games

The division of labor at home is an essential discussion that couples need to have before moving in together or getting married. The boundaries of traditional gender roles are becoming more and more blurred, as two incomes become necessary for many families to survive. But, if you're a woman and you're in the position to be a stay-at-home mom, then that's not to say you've got the easy way out at all. Stay-at-home moms have it tough, and being able to count on your husband or partner for support when they get home from work is a crucial part of the role. One stay-at-home mom of four was so sick of her husband's lack of contribution to the housework or child-raising that she decided to boycott her 'duties' one weekend, spending the whole Saturday locked in a room, playing video games. Her husband was furious and even called his mom to complain, who then had a go at her DIL (hi, manchild!) The woman posted on Reddit's Am I The A-Hole, to get an outside perspective as to whether she was overacting or whether marriage counseling was the only thing that would save the marriage. Read through the comments, which are all pro-her. Her husband sounds unbearable and like he lives in the '50s.




Stay-at-home mom teaches husband lesson and locks herself in room to play video games Text - Posted by u/ClassroomLonely 6 days ago 25 17 321 12 26 AITA for making my husband take over for a day so I can play video games? Not the A-hole I am a mom of 4. I know, that's alot of kids, but I wouldn't change it. The kids are 10m, 9f, 6m, and 2m. I am a stay at home mom while my husband works m-f 9-5. His saturdays are pretty relaxed, he hangs out with the kids
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Husband Refuses To Look At Wife's 'Desperate' Boudoir Photos, Internet Scolds Him

The internet is full of people who make you say "WTF," and this guy is undoubtedly one of them. He posted on the subreddit Am I The A-Hole, explaining how he thought the surprise professional boudoir photos his wife had taken for him were "desperate" and indicative of the midlife crisis he suspected she was having. This absolute gem of a husband explained how his "aging" 41-year-old wife looks starkly different from "everybody else in our group of mid to late thirties people," adding, "Frankly I don't think the boudoir photos make her any more or less flattering... a quick glance at them did nothing for me."

Ummm, OK. First off, any change in appearance over two or three years at that age is negligible. Anyone sensible knows that. So, this guy's delusional views on what women should look like are already painting a picture of the type of person he is. Secondly, his poor wife, who quite clearly feels insecure about her body (probably because of her dckwad of a husband who makes her feel like total sht), was looking for a confidence boost. His reaction is at best indifferent, and at worst, feeding and magnifying all her insecurities, making her feel like total sht. As you probably guessed, Redditors unanimously voted him an a*hole. Please scroll down for his story and to see the comments people left him. Spoiler: they didn't hold back.

husband refuses to look at wife's boudoir photos and intenet calls him an asshole | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/thorwayayawn 13 days ago 3 AITA for telling my wife I don't want to look at her boudoir photos? Asshole My wife is two years older than me. She's 41 now and I think she knows that she's been aging. Even though she takes reasonably good care of herself, it's pretty stark how she looks and how everybody else in our group of mid to late thirties people look.
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Wife Refuses To Stay With Husband If He Got Hypothetical Sex Change

Sometimes in life, you get faced with questions for which there are no right answers. These impossible hypotheticals force you between a rock and a hard place and can make life pretty awkward. For example, when your husband asks you if you'd stay married to him if he got a sex change. I mean, what does one even say to that? If you stay with him, you're forced to stay married to someone you're no longer attracted to. If you bail, then is it really true love?

I know I'd be out, but if you'd stay with him, props to you, my friend, because that is some deeply serious love and commitment. One woman posted her predicament on the subreddit Am I The A-Hole to see how other people would react to her awkward position. The majority of users reassured her that she wasn't the a**hole, saying that her husband was either about to come out as trans or was a highly manipulative individual. Read through her predicament and then see if you agree with the comments.



husband upset at wife because she refuses to stay with him after hypothetical sex change | thumbnail Text - So few days ago, my husband 26m and 26f were having late night chat, sort have often, and he asked question darling, would still be with and be attracted if had sex change said no, and he took very personally and felt really hurt. He said things like thought loved and not my looks and my sex He terribly misunderstood said
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Woman Wants To Know If She's Wrong To Stop Supporting Dead Husband's 'Affair Child' At 18

Everyone has secrets; it's what makes life interesting. But sometimes, the way a secret is revealed can be more scandalous than the secret itself. One woman, who only found that her husband was having an affair when his mistress showed up at his funeral, pregnant, turned to the subreddit Am I The A-Hole for advice.

She explained how, out of the goodness of her heart, she "Agreed to set up a trust for the child for college and agreed to let them live in one of my rental properties in a good area rent-free until her child was 18." Now that the child is 18, she demands that the mom pays rent or moves out. Her deceased husband's family tells her that she is unfair and still owes the woman and her child money. She feels otherwise. Redditors agreed with her and claimed that she had been more than generous. What do you think?

woman wants to know if she's wrong for not supporting dead husbands love child after they turn 18 | thumbnail Text - Text - Posted by u/RepresentativeOwn638 7 days ago 5 2 3e AITA For Refusing To Replenish A College Trust For My Deceased Husband's Affair Child? Not the A-hole I (52f) am in an unusual situation and need an outside perspective but want to maintain my anonymity. 18 years ago it was revealed, at my husband's funeral, he had a pregnant mistress (40f). Obviously I didn't just take th
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Nanny For 'High-Profile Family' Hacks Mom’s Instagram Account, After NDA Violation

A woman posted a question on the Reddit group, Am I The A-hole, asking if she's in the wrong for hacking into her mom's Instagram account after suspecting that her mom gossiped about the "high-profile family" her daughter nannies for, to her friend. The woman explains that this was a direct violation of the NDA that her family had to sign when she started the job, which was in place to protect the family she works for. All for the sake of bragging to her friend. Upon finding out that she hacked into the account, her mom lost it, telling her daughter that she invaded her privacy. The internet jumped to the nanny's defense, whose job, reputation, and livelihood were now at risk. They claimed that her mom was manipulating the situation and gaslighting her daughter when she held her accountable for her actions.

Read the story below and see if you agree with Redditors' comments, who sympathized with her. Then, check out the last comment, where the OP explains what she will do to rectify the situation.

woman who nannies for high profile family finds out her mom violated no gossiping NDA clause | Posted by u/freetobex2 AITA hacking my moms instagram see if she violated NDA? Not hole nanny high profile family signed very extensive and strict NDA. Anyone directly involved my life, mom, dad, sis, and husband, also signed an NDA nanny family recommended this talk about job without getting into any legal trouble or putting them at risk.
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Man Refuses To Give Pregnant Woman Seat On Bus, After Long Work Shift

You do some things in life, not because you have to, but because it's the right thing to do. Picking up litter, helping elderly people to cross the road, and giving up your seat on public transport for pregnant women. Most people don't question these unspoken rules of human decency, but you'll find someone who thinks they are exempt from them every now and again. Like this guy who posted on the popular Reddit thread Am I The A-hole, who asked if he was in the wrong for not giving up his seat on the bus for a pregnant lady, even though he "Works 10-hour shifts." In case you can't get an idea of the type of person he is, from that along, he goes on to say, "We live in a state where birth control and abortions are free, so I don't know why this should be my problem. It's not my fault she decided to have a baby when she can't afford a car."

Ummmm. So essentially, and correct me if I'm wrong, he's saying that if you want to feel comfortable on the bus, you should just get an abortion. Ok cool. He sounds like a genuinely upstanding citizen. Not.

Anyway, as you can imagine, Redditers pitched in left, right, and center, telling him just how much of an ahold he is and why he is a sh*tty human being. As always, there were a few people who were on his side (we've included one such response below), but most people were of the consensus that he is a d-bag. Read through his story and the reactions from Redditers and decide if you think he is, indeed, the ahole.

man refuses to give pregnant woman his seat on bus because he had a long day at work | thumbnail Text - Posted by u/myfeetfuckinghurt 13 days ago AITA for not giving up my seat to a pregnant woman? Asshole So last night I'm on the bus, and a very heavily pregnant lady gets on. She looks around for a seat, only to find there are no available ones left. I'm the closest to her, so she starts giving me the imploring eyes. I had my headphones on and tried to pretend I couldn't see her, but once she s
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