Love altogether in general inexplicable. Attraction falls right under the same rules. You can try to tell yourself what your 'type' is and what your 'icks' are, but really most of the time the reason we fall for someone is beyond us. Perhaps it's simply not that deep. Maybe it's not his sense of humor or his caring gestures, rather it's his jean length and the way he scratches his head.
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Ah, pickup lines. Some people swear by them, others can't even pretend to entertain the people using them. Personally, they used to annoy me, but I think we can all agree that a little part of us misses the days when random strangers would come up to us in the bar and we could roll our eyes at the sound of, "Are you from Tennessee.... Because you're the only ten-I-see" or "Did it hurt... When you fell from Heaven?" E-pickup lines sent over dating apps just don't hit the same.
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It's a well-known concept that we are always our own harshest critics — we become self-conscious of things that we think are glaringly obvious to other people, which, in reality, no one notices. Usually, we become more aware of this when we are around members of the opposite sex. Whether it's something about our appearance, our personality, or our actions, the chances are that you have convinced yourself of this "unattractive quality" that doesn't exist. An AskReddit thread challenged women to list the things that they found attractive in men but that men don't find attractive about themselves, and the responses show how little people notice the things that we are self-conscious about.
