Some issues are so multi-faceted you don't even know where to start. You can try to address the smaller things but sometimes there simply are no smaller things and you have to just take the problem as it is. Also, there will be cases where everybody is the bad guy and nobody really learns their lesson. Unfortunately, life isn't a movie, so you can't really wait around for people to get their just desserts. All you can do is live your life and try to avoid as much drama as you can.
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It's great to start new hobbies, especially after having children. It's important to have things that make us happy and feel productive. However, there is a line between a demanding hobby and a straight-up obsession. If you find that your 'hobby' is coming in between your relationship with your family, it might be time to reconsider how healthy it really is. A safe way to double-check how much of your life is consumed by this hobby is to ask yourself, "has this new passion caused me to accuse my sister of having an affair with my husband?" If no, you're probably ok. If yet, it's time to rethink some things.
